Friday, September 24, 2010

My Personal Childhood Web

The people listed below were very special to me in my childhood and they are still influencing me today. I will talk about how they influenced my life as a child, how they nurtured me, cared about me, and how they made me feel special. I will also discuss how their influence still affects my life today.

Christine
Christine is my mother. She is also one of my role models. When I was growing up, I always wanted to be just like her. I loved watching her teach her students and seeing her passion when she was teaching. Seeing how she cared for them as much as she cared for me, my sister, and my brother. She encouraged me to persue my goal as an educator. She still to this day encourages me to do my best and reach for my goals even when I feel like giving up. She has always been there when I needed her and has really taught me a lot about being a caring and loving mother to my own children. She taught me that as a mother you could still have hopes and dreams and still raise a family while achieving those dreams. If I had to use one word to describe her, it would be "Encourager".

George
George is my father. Most of my younger childhood, my father was a stay at home dad. He was laid off work so he was the one who took care of us when my mother was at work. He loved to cook and shared that passion with us. He encouraged my siblings and me to use our imagination and encouraged us to figure things out for ourselves. He was in a sense for me, my protector. I always felt when I had a problem I could go to him with it. He would not solve the problem for me all the times, but he would help me come up with a solution. I knew that he would do anything for his children and he still would. I feel blessed to have a father that I can count on and know that he will always be there for me. If I had to use one word to describe him, it would be "Protector".


Donald
Donald was my grandfather. I was very lucky growing up to know all my grandparents. Grandpa Hart was the one I was closest to. In his eyes, I could do no wrong. He was a Marine and you could tell in his eyes that he had seen many things in his life. I loved going over to his house and spending the day with him. We would take walks in the woods and go fishing. He was an outdoorsman. I got my love of nature from him. When I think about him, I get this picture of him sitting at the picnic table under the big tree at his house. As he would call it, he was "holding down the fort". He would always have a cigarette in one hand and a beer in the other. I never thought anything of it, because that was typical for him. I remember when, in school we learned that smoking and drinking were bad for your health. I remember going to him and telling him that he needed to stop drinking and smoking. I made posters, wrote letters to him, and even told him that I would stop talking to him. I was too young to realize that I could not make him stop but I tried my hardest. He just laughed and told me it was ok he was allowed to do those things. This was a big influence in my life. I vowed that I would never smoke. The hardest part of this story is that during my senior year of high school he was diagnosed with tongue cancer. The doctors could not operate; they gave him only months to live. I remember the anger I felt, and the pain I felt. He tried to joke and laugh about the situation. Throughout that year, I watched this strong man waste away to nothing. He passed away three days after I graduated high school. I still think about what he would say or think when I do things in my life. Even though he is gone, he is still influencing my life. I talk to my children about the importance of not smoking. The one word that I would use to describe him would have to be "Jokester".

Bev
Bev was my babysitter. Her family lived on a farm. She also lives right beside the fire hall where my father was a volunteer firefighter. So when there was a call, we would all get in the car and go with him to the fire hall then walk across the yard to her house. I spent half my childhood on that farm. I remember sitting on the bench in the barn watching them milk cows. I remember learning different things on the farm and how it was very hard work. She was like a second mother to me. She is still a big part of my life. She comes to my children's birthday parties. She talks about how my oldest daughter looks just like me. The main thing I think about when I think about her is the farm and her crafts. She was always making something while I was there. There are times that I think about what would Bev think about this decision, or what would she say? The one word I think of when I think of her is "hard-worker".


Clay
Clay was one of my Sunday school teachers. He was and still is a huge member of the church. He was like a father to me growing up. He was a Marine and a jokester just like my grandfather. I think that is why I have a connection to him. He always reminded me of my grandfather. He was always there at church and always making sure, I was doing ok. Today he still does the same thing. The first thing he does when he see me is gives me a huge hug and asks me how I am doing. In church today, he is the "grandfather" figure to all the young ones that come. It is a wonderful feeling knowing that my children get to know a wonderful loving and caring man. My youngest calls him "Papa K" since she cannot say Clay yet. Her face lights up when she sees him and she runs to him and gives him a hug and kiss. It is a wonderful feeling seeing not only my children but also all the young ones go to him and feel comfortable with him. The one word that comes to mind when I think of him is "Hugger" because that is the first thing he does when he sees my children or me.

4 comments:

  1. Alison, you are blessed with so many people who have influenced your life. I enjoyed your one word label for each person. Having grown up so blessed with such a caring childhood web, I believe that in part, it is one of the reasons I choose to work with children. I seem to have a passion for wanting to create that for those who do not have it. Do you think your positive childhood has any influence on why you are in the field?

    Sondi

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  2. Sondi,
    I fully believe that my positive childhood had an extreme influence on why I'm in this field. I had some many positive and caring people in my childhood that influenced me and still are impacting my life. It was very difficult to narrow it down to just five people.

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  3. I love your story about your grandfather. I too shared a very special relationship with my grandfather. Like yours I could do no wrong. My grandfather had the idea that there was men’s work and then there was women’s work. I completely changed that thinking. I was stubborn and very persistent. If there was something that he and my brothers were doing that I wanted to help with I continued on until I was allowed to do the same. My grandmother always shared the story of how I loved to play beauty parlor with my grandfather. He patiently sat as I combed and combed and combed. He never once complained but he always told my grandmother his head was so swore after I had left. He always said if he could have a dozen of us he would. Like your grandfather my grandfather was also diagnosed with cancer when I was in high school. That summer I drove him to every doctor’s appointment. We waited patiently for a diagnosis and then I supported him through his decision not to treat the cancer that time. I visited him every single day that he was in the hospital. I wanted to return all of the love and support he had always given to me. It was his humor that got him through the tough days. Instead of complaining he would look to make the nurses laugh as they came in to check on him. I got to be that support for him when he called on me to come and sit with him one night. I was so blessed to know him. His memories and the valuable lessons he taught me will stay with me forever.

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  4. Family has always been important to me as well. I have always had a strong sense of family values. I know I have lost my uncle four months after I got married and unfortunately he was too sick to attend my wedding. I do have some great memories.

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